FOMO

Are you plagued by the "fear of missing out"?  Also referred to by its acronym, FOMO, the fear of missing out is a genuine fear that causes us to do things that we may not necessarily want to do.  Instead of making a deliberate decision, the fear of missing out takes over and we simply act.

Like anything, in order to beat it, we need to be aware of the symptoms and how to overcome it.

The most predominant reason that FOMO seizes us is that we aren't clear on our purpose, our goals, or our intentions.  Being clear on your reasons for doing something is hugely important.  This isn't to discount any reasons.  If your reason is just to have fun or you're curious or just because your best friend invited you, that's totally acceptable.

The crucial part is to just simply know what the reason is.

Comparison is another rampant cause of the fear of missing out.  Often when we are comparing, we only see the highlight reel of others and fail to recognize that what they are doing may or may not fulfill us and our goals.  We doubt ourselves because we assume that "the grass is greener" over there.

Another cause of FOMO is feeling stressed, under pressure, or overwhelmed.  When we're in states like this, we tend to have our arms outstretched and grasping at whatever we can get.  This kind of emotional state causes us to feel scarcity and then we feel like everything that comes along is the last opportunity we're ever going to get.

So, how do we beat it?

First, slow down.  If life is too hectic and too overwhelming, take a moment to relax, meditate, and center yourself.  When you give yourself this time, you allow your brain to sort out the important from the unimportant.  You may notice a difference by simply doing this.  

Next, get clear on your goals, desires, and intentions.  This comes up a lot, I know, but it's really the key to solving so many problems.  Once you're clear about where you want to go, you can figure out if what you're thinking about doing is something that you truly want to do or if the fear of missing out is presenting it to you.

Clarity and a definition of goals will give you the confidence to fully jump in or reject the choice in front of you.

Then, recognize that you may not be able to do it all.  Saying yes to some opportunities mean saying no to others.  Think about what you would rather sacrifice.  This decision will mean different things at different times, so keep that in mind and continually re-evaluate your choices.  

By defining your goals and acknowledging potential sacrifices, you will have released yourself from the fear of missing out, taken control, and made a choice that best serves you.  

Don't let FOMO rule you!