Motivational Book Monday - How to Win Friends and Influence People

Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic and for a good reason.  Concise and interesting, Dale outlines 29 principles to help you get along with everyone way better.  Each chapter is filled with anecdotes and stories, but at the end, he lays out the principle plain, simple, and easy to follow.

My favorite thing about this book is that it is so relatable.  As I was reading, I could think of examples of how I unknowingly used the principle and it worked out to my benefit, just like Dale describes.  I could also think of instances in which I did the opposite of what Dale suggests and it has, indeed, turned out poorly.

One of my favorite principles is the 12th: If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.  The idea of admitting I'm wrong initially left an unpleasant taste in my mouth.  I mean, who likes to be wrong?  No one.  However, I started implementing this practice into my life and I've seen a huge difference in my interactions with others.  Instead of skipping around a potential point of blame, I simply admit anything that I could have possibly done wrong.  That communicates to the other person that I'm not going to attack them and put the blame on them.  Then, they disarm themselves and we can have a good conversation to sort out the problem.  This has not turned out poorly a single time.  Even if if the wrong was someone else's, if I try to claim it, they'll admit it was their fault in a peaceful way and a resolution can be reached with out argument.

This book is packed with great advice and tactics for dealing with others in the best way possible.  Even if you're a champion at relationships, I think it's still worth a read!

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book.  (All quotes are from Dale Carnegie, unless otherwise noted.)

"The world is full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking.  So the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage.  He has little competition."
"It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others." - Alfred Adler
"Everybody in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it.  That is by controlling your thoughts.  Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions.  It depends on inner conditions."