I recently read Feel the Fear... and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers and it was one of those books that I immediately wanted to shove into the hands of everyone I met. To say that this book has been valuable to me is an understatement - and I never thought of myself as an overly fearful person. The whole premise of the book is life changing. Susan boils down our fears to one main problem...
...the belief that we won't be able to handle it.
Think about it. We're scared of losing a job because we're afraid we won't be able to handle it and find another one. We're scared of taking new opportunities because we're not sure if we are qualified enough and can handle it. We're scared of child birth because we don't know if we can handle it... Think about what you're fearful of and see if this isn't really the core issue. As people experience those things (and much more difficult ones) and come out on the other side, they have a new confidence because they handled it.
When we have confidence in our ability to handle anything that comes our way, the fear will dissipate and we won't be paralyzed to take action.
I also think it's important to note that Susan doesn't say that the knowledge or the belief that we can handle anything doesn't take the fear completely away. The only way to truly get rid of the fear is to actually do the thing that you're afraid of doing. If it doesn't kill the fear the first time, keep doing it and it will eventually.
If you struggle with fear in your life, I can't recommend this book enough. It's a short and entertaining read. You will feel empowered to make changes in your thinking and in your life. Don't let fear stop you from being awesome.
Not convinced? Here are some great quotes from the book:
"All you have to do to diminish your fear is to develop more trust in your ability to handle whatever comes your way."
"Remember that underlying all our fears is a lack of trust in ourselves. The knowledge that you can handle anything that comes your way is the key to allowing yourself healthy, life affirming risks."
"I learned that in order to get rid of the fear of lack, I had to do the opposite of what I had been doing up until that time. Instead of hanging on to everything for dear life, I had to start releasing, letting go, give it away."
"Whether you presently believe it or not, your life is already abundant. You simply haven't noticed it. Before you can accept abundance in your life, you have to notice it."