They say that the most successful people make decisions quickly and change them slowly.
As a formerly indecisive person, that was tough to hear. Instead of dismissing the whole thing, simply because I didn't like it, I looked into why that was. In my research, I discovered the key to making quick decisions. This key enables you feel confidence in your decisions and feel empowered by them. Are you ready for it?
The key to being decisive is knowing what you want.
Have you ever been asked what you want for dinner and you say what you want instantly because you have been craving that specific thing all day? Contrast that to the times that it feels like you're going to need counseling because it is just too hard to decide on what to eat.
When you know just what you want to eat, the decision comes out quickly. You voice what you want and then you get it. When you have no idea, the decision comes with much grumbling and general dissatisfaction that a decision will have to be made eventually and then an all too often unsatisfactory meal follows.
Knowing what you want gives you the power to make decisions quickly.
But it's not about knowing a general idea of what you want. It's about knowing specifically what you want. Specificity is really important and it allows you to easily weed out "good" options from "great" options.
For example, I have a hard time finding boots because I am extremely specific about it. I don't wear heels, so they have to be flat. They need to be mostly black. The zipper has to be in the back. With this specific set of criteria, I can blow through a shoe department in no time, not wasting time on anything that doesn't meet all the requirements. But when I do find a pair that checks all the boxes, I don't have to waste time buying them, either.
This applies to every area of your life. Knowing what you want saves you time and gives you the ability to make confident, quick decisions. Being uncertain in what you want, causes you to waste time and waffle back and forth between options. However, it all starts by knowing what you want, so if you don't know what you want, you should consider spending some time to figure it out.
Like anything, being decisive is a skill that can be cultivated.
So, how to you cultivate decisiveness? First of all, practice any way you can. For the habitually indecisive, force yourself to make quick decisions when it comes to things that don't really matter. When you're at a restaurant, give yourself 30 seconds to look at the menu and decide. Then forbid yourself to change your mind. When you're at the grocery store, pick items off the shelves in 10 seconds. Resist the urge to feel rushed and instead try to feel confident. Affirm to yourself that you know what you want and you are going to get precisely that.
As you grow more confident on deciding on the little things, take every opportunity to be decisive on the bigger things. Remember what you want, establish the criteria, and go after exactly that. You deserve to have just what you want. Go after it in confidence!